Tuesday, April 10, 2012

When is it okay for your child to be HOME ALONE?

Home is the place where a child should feel 
protected and safe. But what about those times when a parent can’t be there? If there is no affordable after-school program or sitter available, when is it okay for your child to be home alone?
There is no right answer for every child. There is no magic age when a child suddenly becomes responsible and mature. But there are ways to evaluate your child’s capabilities in order to make a more informed decision.
Review these questions:
·         Is your child mature enough to be home alone?
o   Age in years and age in maturity are very different things. A child who does not know how to respond to a knock at the door, or one who forgets to lock the door, is not ready to be left alone.
·         Can your child handle fear, loneliness, and boredom?
o   These are some of the things kids face when they are home by themselves.
·         Is there a responsible adult nearby, a relative or a neighbor, who your child can call for assistance?
o   Even if you work nearby, there may be times when you will not be available. Who can your child turn to then?
·          Does your child know emergency procedures? Have you reviewed fire escape routes? Is there a first aid kit available, and does your child know how to use it?
o   Role-play with your child. Pretend there is an emergency and see your child’s response.
·         Does your child perform everyday tasks such as fixing a snack, dialing the phone, and writing messages?
o   These are necessary skills.
·         Does your child regularly solve small problems without assistance, knowing when it’s okay to ask for help?
o   If your child arrived home to find the front door open, or a window broken, what would be the results?
·         Are there siblings who will also be home? Does your child manage conflicts with/among siblings without adult help?
o   The best way to answer this is to watch your child with siblings. If your child doesn’t manage well when you’re home, most likely the situation will not improve when you’re away.
·         Is your child comfortable with the idea of staying alone?
o   Ask! If the answer is no, then it is definitely not a good idea. A child must feel confident about being alone and self-sufficient for the time you are way.
If you and your child are confident that the time is right, try leaving your child for short periods of time to test the results. Call it an “experiment.” First, make sure that these elements are in place:
·         There should be a basic agreement, a contract of sorts, between you and your child about what is expected when you are away, with clear rules as to what is off-limits.
·         Make a thorough check of your home for safety risks, access to kitchen appliances (especially gas), alcoholic beverages, and firearms. Remove these risks!
·         Make certain your child has every key necessary to get into the house, with a plan for what to do if the keys are lost.
·         All necessary information should be kept by every phone. Your home address, emergency numbers, your contact info, neighbor’s phone number.
·         And, if possible, leave a cell phone number or pager number to reach you immediately.
Afterwards discuss your experiment. Did each person feel comfortable? IF you still have concerns, contact a trusted professional or clergy person to help you address your concerns. Try the experiment again when everyone feels more comfortable and confident.
 This information was brought to you by Prevent Child Abuse Indiana www.pcain.org

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